Today, Christopher and I are celebrating five years of marriage. Some days it feels like just yesterday that we became husband and wife, and others it feels like it’s been a good ten or fifteen years. To mark this special day, I decided that it would be fun to do one of the husband/boyfriend tags that I see all the time on YouTube. I decided to make the questions a little bit different as you might already know how me met, and I wanted to have questions that we could both answer as well as adding some reader questions into the mix (thank you to those that sent me questions) and took some questions from the annual anniversary questionnaire that Emily and Geoffrey do on Cupcakes and Cashmere.
1.What first attracted you to your spouse?
K: I’m not sure that I’ve ever thought about this question before, but I realized today that it boiled down to one thing: confidence. When Chris and I started spending time together before we started dating, he was just himself and never played games with me. He made me realize that I shouldn’t care so much what other people think of me (though that’s still something I’m working on).
C: I’m not really sure. She had a boyfriend already, so for the longest time I didn’t try to pursue a relationship.
2. When did you first know that you were going to marry each other?
K: We talked about the possibility of getting married really early (probably after a month of dating), but the day that I knew for sure was a few months later on October 16, 2011 (I have a weird memory). We were at a church meeting and I was singing in the choir. I remember looking into the congregation and seeing him and immediately knowing he would be my husband.
C: We had been dating for a while, and, I’m not sure what prompted it, but I was laying in bed and I had this intense feeling that Kristi was going to be my wife.
3. Do you have any traditions that you do together?
K: One of my favourite traditions that we started a couple of years ago is watching a Marvel movie on Christmas Eve. It usually ends up being the movie that I buy Chris for his birthday (his birthday is 6 days before Christmas), and we watch it after we open our Christmas PJs.
C: I don’t know. I think we are still figuring that out. Though, we do try and see most Marvel movies on release day. And watching the Food Network while on vacation (especially Chopped!).
4. Any tips on plans on planning a wedding?
K: Keep it simple (“K.I.S.S. Keep it simple stupid. Great advice. Hurts my feelings every time” — name that show). One thing that I regret is trying to use every wedding idea that I had. If you put the focus on a cohesive theme, it will be easier to know what you want to keep or let go. Also, make sure you have a list of pictures that you want handy for your photographer. I forgot mine on my wedding day and everything was such a blur that I didn’t get a photo with just my parents or siblings, which I really wish I had.
C: Don’t. Planning a wedding is annoying. I’m kidding. Honestly though, don’t make it expensive, and do what you want. It is literally your party. Do what you want.
5. What have your five years of marriage taught you?
K: It has taught me a lot about what it really means to love someone. I’ve also learned the importance of communication. I have a bad habit of assuming that Chris can just read my mind, but the last five years have taught me that that is so far from the truth.
C: I love my wife more than I thought possible.
6. What is one thing you wished the other liked more?
K: Music. Although there are a few songs we both like, and we both enjoy a good Disney sing-a-long in the car, Chris doesn’t share my passion for music. He likes to call my music “hipster music” because he’s positive that I’m the only one that listens to it. And unfortunately despite my many attempts to change his mind, he will never be my concert buddy.
C: Video games, and the movies/TV shows I like. We basically don’t like any of the same entertainment (though Disney and Marvel seem to be the exceptions that prove the rule).
7. What is your favourite outfit that the the other wears?
K: My favourite outfit that Chris wears is a blue gingham shirt with grey khakis. I did pick them out for him, so I might be biased.
C: I’m not sure. Kristi has a lot of them. I’m not sure if this is my #1 favourite, but I definitely do like her blue dress with the floral print on it.
8. What is your favourite memory together?
K: Besides our engagement and the day we got married, one of my favourite memories was the summer that we started dating. We went to GlobalFest (a fireworks festival), and sitting on the hill, watching the fireworks along with the music was probably one of the most romantic dates we’ve had. Even now watching fireworks with Christopher is one of my favourite things.
C: My brain doesn’t work that way. I don’t generally remember a lot of specifics. However, our trip to the Bahamas was fantastic. Spending all day in an all-inclusive resort, with pools and the ocean to play in all day, and my wife with me to share it with, well, it was just fantastic. Though, I am still on the mailing list for one of the shops there… I don’t know what they expect me to buy from over here.
9. What is your favourite thing about being married?
K: I saw a print the other day that said “Marriage: an endless sleepover with your favourite weirdo”. I think that sums it up pretty well. I also love that I always have someone on my team.
C: I get to come home and see my wife every day. It was so depressing to have to leave her house every night while we were dating.
This last question is just for Christopher, for those that don’t know him very well (which is probably most of you).
10.We know that your hobbies are more beauty related or book related, but what does Chris like to do? How does he find the makeup/beauty blogging? How does he react to the big sephora packages? If he had a blog what would he make it on? Does he ever proofread your posts/help with the direction?
C: I feel like this is more than one question….I like to play video games and watch Netflix/Movies/TV. If I can do those things with my wife, even better! I’m not overly fond of the beauty blogging. I don’t dislike it, but I’m also not interested in it either. However, it makes my wife happy, so I am more than happy to support her in that (except taking pictures. I don’t like that)! When I see the big Sephora packages, all I can see is dollar signs leaving the bank account. Money isn’t as tight anymore, so I don’t usually get that concerned when I see them nowadays. If I had a blog it would be about videos games. Or some sort of tech/computer blog (like how to fix them). Kristi asks me questions about colours and design regarding her blog sometimes, and I give less than helpful answers. If that counts. She doesn’t ask me to proofread unless I am somehow mentioned in the post in some significant way.
K: I wanted to add that Christopher has a huge impact on my blog in that he is my personal IT guy and has helped me so much over the last few years to get it set up and keep it running smoothly.
I hope that gave you an insight into us and what it’s been like to be married for five years. If you have any other questions, leave them in the comments below!